The Pros and Cons of being single (during the holidays)

It's that time of year again folks! Football games are in full swing, chili is being made by the gallon and couples every where are anticipating many firsts in the their relationships. Or some of the more seasoned couples are wishing they could do this. I on the other hand will be most likely feeding my internet addiction, visiting family and a few friends, and watching my DVD collection for the 2nd or 3rd time in a row. Lame right? I know! My increasing levels of lame never cease to amaze me so that is why I have decided to compile a list of Pros and Cons of being single during this lovely time of year.

Pro: You can eat whatever you want and not feel guilty about it.
Con: Right before Spring you start to feel a tad bit guilty about it.

Pro: You don't have to worry about buying any gifts for their side of the family (including just a bottle of wine)
Con: Not having anyone to cuddle up next to the fireplace with to drink cocoa.

Pro: You get full control of the remote, so all of those old school holiday movies that you love are yours for the enjoying.
Con: You get to cuddle on the couch with the cat or the dog.

Pro: You can make up excuses to leave a couple filled party and go do your own thing.
Con: At said parties you are reminded that you're still single.

Pro: You prep your car for the winter and show the car who's boss!
Con: A car smart guy is always a helpful friend to have around.

Pro: No one to keep you from having a great time!
Con: No one is there to stop you from having too much of a great time.

Pro: Your time and money is spent the way you want.
Con: Sometimes it's nice to surpise someone with little gifts and with your time.

Pro: You come home to your own thing.
Con: If you have had a bad day, you don't have anyone that is already there to comfort you.

So it seems that this has just become a general Pros and Cons list of the single life,which tends to be a very sharp double edged sword unless you have managed to snag a really, really great guy or girl and then in that case I wish you nothing but the best for days to come! :) If not then embrace the independence and the freedom that single life offers! Because being an independent and self sufficient member of society is a beautiful thing!

So what are some of your Pros and Cons about the single life, or if your in a relationship what are the Pros and Cons of it?

Have a lovely day/evening all!

xoxo

Independent Women, FTW! Until they meet a douche..( Beauty and the Beast syndrome at it's worst)

What do you do when your best friend of 5 years starts dating someone and your left behind and have become a substitute?

First off I really am happy for my best friend, she's been living the single life for quite some time and she has really shined through it all. She personified the term "independent woman". Sure she's struggled here and there, who hasn't? But she has always come out shining. I'm very proud to be able to call her my friend. But I am worried that she may be losing some of her luster.

I don't know if this has happened to you but I think that this is just ridiculous! **I'm about to be a little bitter and bitchy for a paragraph or two** I was here first, I was here for her when she needed me to kill the bugs that were in her way and to reach the things on the high shelves. Now I'm just the fill in if the boyfriend can't hang out for some reason. That's not how I roll. Especially since before he came along people used to ask us if she and I were sisters, SISTERS!
But the second he flashes his shiny car and they share their first kiss she's gone like I was never here! It really doesn't help that he thinks he's better than me just because he works at a hospital,drives a nice car,and is in school. But I have gone through more in my short life then he can ever imagine and I've worked for all that I have. This may be exaggerating the situation a little bit but it feels like every day she goes more and more into the dark side. We all know that good things never come to those that fully convert. Sigh. I'm sorry I just really,really needed to get this out. There's more but I'm not going to share it for personal reasons.

Also someone that calls his gay brother a "waste of space" and then calls themselves a "Christian" while doing so, needs some help. Most recently though he did something to me that totally messed up my night and I was not amused. He and my friend went out and a few days before I had just got my new (new to me) car and I heard a slam. I think I knew it was his doors when he came in and goes, "Nicole, um did you hear that noise? I accidentally thought my gas pedal was my brake. I'm sorry." I was a little more then mad at this point, even though in my head I knew that he didn't but I was still pissed off. He then came back to my door laughing and nonchalantly goes, "I was just messing with you Nicole, you should have seen your face!" All the while laughing and my room mate is nowhere to be found,I hope she makes him apologize to me. You just don't do that to someone that hasn't had many nice things (mainly cars) in their life. Maybe it's just me....

Thoughts?

So here's a little diddy for the man child (my friends bf)

Tell me, have you ever lost a friend to a significant other or felt abandoned by a friend?

P.S Let me make it clear, I'm not hot for the guy or jealous of my friend (if she's happy I'm happy,even if I think the guy is a jerk.) and right now I'm just seeing what's out there for me. I don't mind the single life. When someone is supposed to come into my life they will, until then I'm taking care of my stuff and waiting.

My attempt to put some hope in the hopeless.

It seems that my life seems to resonate quite well with the old addage "You don't know what you had until it's gone"; for example the ability to drive. Last week I was going to get my room mate's sister and take her to school but on the way I got into a car accident that totaled my car and severely bruised my ego and hands because before that fateful day things were going splendid for me. I was starting a new job, starting to get my insurance lower and more manageable as well as starting to see a chance of moving out into a place of my own. But my resilience and abundant amount of optimism only let me wallow for about an hour and a half. My dad's voice popped into my head repeating something to me that he had done for many a years and that was "Pull yourself up by your boot straps and go on with your life!" My dad was/is a very wise man, I know that he is deceased but he has never left my heart. :) So I did just that and so far things are already starting to look up, I have two jobs that I actually kind of like and my future is starting to look brighter everyday!

So if you are having a bad day,week,or month I just want to let you know that it will get better, you just need to have some patience and a great supportive group behind you and you will do just fine. If you don't have anyone that you can talk to about anything your going through that is particularly tough to deal with you can talk to me and I will try to help you as best I can.

This may help too: i hope this helps :) and hopefully this too. :)

Have a lovely day/night all!



XOXO

P.S I have been through a LOT in my life and while we all go through different things you never know what you and a stranger have in common until you talk.

Fangirling,New Endeavors and restored hope.

I have so much random thoughts going on in my head tonight that I literally can not pick one to focus on. It has been the craziest/most happiest day and the natural high of it is wearing off (I hate that part. I can almost relate to Jim Carrey in Yes,Man only Zooey Deschanel is not taking pictures of me. Now it's time for the run down:

-I got to sleep in and snuggle with my pillows an extra hour and a half this morning.
-I had the house to myself for the better part of the day, so I did a whole lot of nothing.
-Went to a place that I applied to the other day for an interview, was asked to come back later.
-Came home,read, spent way too much time online and pretty much just passed the time.
-Went back to the place, brought a spare resume and was told that I was "over qualified" for the job but they still want me anyways!
-I start next week by the way. :)
I then spent the rest of my night like I normally do on a Friday night and tuned into @PJCalamity's blogtv and had considerable more amounts of awesome loaded onto my day. Fangirling and all this day has been, dare I say it? Magical! I didn't even let the "Debbie Downers" and people that don't understand my weirdness and excitement over little things in life bother me. It was AMAZING!
Now I really should go to bed because my Saturday is going to start on an unfortunate earlier than desired note but I almost don't want this day to be wrapped yet. I want to pull out as much awesomeness that it will allow without having it come back and bite me tomorrow.

On that note, I'm gonna try to go to sleep or at least text someone until I do fall asleep, goodnight loves
XOXO

and a Happy Halloween!

I want to meet Mark Zuckerberg.

All right I'm not going to lie to you guys, I don't have a lot of friends and I will be the first to admit it. I will also admit that about maybe a third of the "friends" I have on Facebook and other networking sites I only know on a personal level. Some close friends and family are about the extent of who I talk to the most. The rest of the friends and acquaintances I have are mainly people from high school that I know by association or they just added me to raise their numbers. But I guess that now would be a great time for me to explain my title for this blog,I have just (okay now it's been like almost 2 hours) since I have returned home from seeing "The Social Network" which you should know the synopsis of, unless you live under a rock or just don't get out much.

I am going to have to go with all of the other critics and other reviews of the movie and say that it was awesome! Jesse Eisenberg was a great and totally believable Mark Zuckerberg if I have ever seen one and Andrew Garfield was totally on spot for Eduardo. I took a trip to Wal-mart last night mainly out of boredom and because I had watched most of the movies in my house. I was browsing the books when I came across "The Accidental Billionaires:The Founding of Facebook and my curiousity trumped logic because I bought it. I have just scratched the surface of it, but it has already roped me in.

I like quite possibly a lot of other people in this world found myself relating a little bit more than expected to Mr. Zuckerberg. I don't have the biggest group of friend's, one close one for the most part that has been by my side for a LOT. I'm super awkward like him too. Which not a bad thing, as much as society believes it to be. It can be I guess for some people but I've heard that it is usually the quiet ones that do great things. Because let's face it, what we lack in voice we make up for in smarts. On that note, I think that I have sufficiently embarrassed myself enough for this post. Til' next time!

xoxo

P.S If you could meet anyone who would it be and why?

this is your life, are you who you want to be?

Alright, I have been M.I.A long enough. I think that now is as good a time as any to write. I kind of feel like a modern-day Abe Lincoln writing by the flickering glow of a candle. Too bad Abe didn't have the internet and the ability to write sans quills and parchment (they used that at that time right?). I digress, yet I still don't know where to start...

*pause for the words to come to me*

"You don't have a soul. You are a soul. You have a body"

-C.S Lewis

Have you ever felt that you were meant for something bigger and better then what you are stuck doing now? I don't know about you but I feel that on a regular basis. It kind of makes some sense after all I have been through in my young life you would think that maybe Karma or the big guy upstairs would give me a break or something. I have always lived by the Golden Rule and treat people how I would like to be treated, yes sometimes I fail to do so, or unintentionally treat someone the less than desired way. But that's why we are human. We are allowed to make mistakes even if others around us don't think that we should pursue one thing or another, but that's why "results may vary" is such a true statement. I think I deserve a little slack, at least a little more then I've had in the past.

The other day while out applying for jobs and trying to get some Avon orders I believe a miracle happened, I was filling out an application when a complete stranger walked up to me and started to chat for a minute or two. This stranger I believe was sent to me for a reason and that reason is: when all hope is lost never despair because answers do come soon. That day I was offered and opportunity that I feel very strongly about not turning down. I am now in the process of racking my brain to figure out a way to pursue this new endeavor even if others around me don't see it working out for me. When you have gone through all the things that I have gone through you start to become a pessimist wrapped up in a blanket of optimism, and this warmth and security will not be taken away! Life is too short to be overly pessimistic!



I think that about wraps it up for tonight..thank you to all that have been there for me through everything and continue to do so, I love you and you mean the world to me!

Also here's a list of fall/winter movies that I want to review for you all soon: The Social Network, It's Kind of a Funny Story, Red, Life as we Know it, Due Date, Jackass 3D,Never Let Me Go (some to be on DVD),Love and Other Drugs, Hereafter,Tangled, and Black Swan. I can't wait! I see more blog posts in the future once I get a chance to see these movies!

*Dating sabotical update: I'm doing good, except that an old friend from back in the day has come back into my life and old feelings have risen again so we are just talking for now and getting to know each other again. We'll just have to see where that goes! :)

XOXO

A lame excuse for a blog.

1. First thing you wash in the shower?
-- My hair

2. What color is your favorite hoodie?
-- My new navy blue one.

3. Would you kiss the last person you kissed again?
-- Probably not.

4.Do you plan outfits?
-- Sometimes but they don't get worn.

5. How are you feeling RIGHT now?
--Bored,sad,lonely,but also happy.

6. Whats the closest thing to you thats red?
-- A coupon for CiCi's.

7. Do you say aim or a-i-m?
--A-I-M

8. Tell me about the last dream you remember having?
-- I forgot.

9. Did you meet anybody new today?
-- Nope.

10. What are you craving right now?
-- Affection,chinese,a job. LOL

11. Do you floss?
-- Not as often as I should.

12. What comes to mind when I say cabbage?
-- St. Patrick's Day!

13. When was the last time you talked on aim?
-- Forever a go.

14. Are you emotional?
-- Yes, my heart is on my sleeve.

15. Would you dance to the taco song?
-- I don't know the dance but I sadly know the song. It's from South Park correct?

16. Have you ever counted to 1,000?
--No.

17. Do you bite into your ice cream or just lick it?
-- Lick.

18. Do you like your hair?
--NO! I miss my long pretty hair!

19. Do you like yourself?
-- Yes for the most part.

20. Have you ever met a celebrity?
-- Yes, Chad from Carolina Liar and the singer from Ludo.

21. Do you like cottage cheese?
-- Yes just not a lot.

22. What are you listening to right now?
-- http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=qCgtqAsHwAE :/ my friend wanted to hear it...*hangs head in shame*

23. How many countries have you been to?
--Only USA as of now.

24. Are your parents strict?
-- A little, but not so much to me anymore.

25. Would you go sky diving?
-- No siree.

26. Would you go out to eat with George W. Bush?
-- Senior yes.

27. Would you throw potatoes at him?
-- No that's a waste of potatoes.

28. Is there anything sparkly in the room you're in?
--Nope.

29. Have you ever been in a castle?
-- I've been to white castle

30. Do you rent movies often?
-- Nope I go see them.

31. Who sits in behind you in your math class?
-- No one, I'm not in school yet.

32. Have you made a prank phone call?
-- Back in the day.

33. Do you own a gun?
-- Pacifists don't own guns, unless they shoot water or darts out of them.

34. Can you count backwards from 74?
-- 74,73,72,71,70...okay I'm bored, NEXT!

35. Who are you going to be with tonight?
-- Probably no one.

36. Brown or white eggs?
-- Both.

37. Do you own something from Hot Topic?
-- Yes.

38. Ever been on a train?
-- No but I want to!

39. Ever been in love?
-- A long time ago

40. Do you have a cell-phone?
-- yep

41. Are you too forgiving?
-- Yes, especially for people that don't even deserve it.

42. Do you use chap stick?
-- Yes.

43. What is your best friend doing tomorrow?
--Church then her boyfriend will probably sweep her away to go do whatever they do.

44. Can you use chop sticks?
-- Like a pro. :)

45. Ever have cream puffs?
-- Yes.

46. Have you ever seen The Butterfly Effect?
-- Yes, but I want to see it again.

47. What was the last question you asked?
-- Can I have one of those?

48. What was the last CD you bought?
-- I think Ludo.

49. Boys or girls?
-- boys

50. What is your bus number for school?
-- I don't know.

51. Is your hair curly?
-- Yes :( It used to be long and pin straight, now it's curly and short. :/

52. Last time you cried?
-- The last time I talked about my dad.

53. Ever walked into a wall?
-- All the time.

54. Do looks matter?
-- Yes.

55. Have you ever bought anything from Pac Sun?
-- I don't think so.

56. Have you ever slapped someone?
-- Yes.

57. Favorite time of the year?
-- Spring and Fall.

58. Favorite color?
--Purple and Green.

59. Are you sarcastic?
-- Your not?

60. Do you have any tattoos?
--Yes! I'm proud of it too.

61. The last person you held hands with?
--A guy named Omar.

62. Do you sleep with the TV on?
-- No, I'm a vampire. I love the dark.

63. Where was your default picture taken at?
-- At home on my brothers bed.

64. Do you hate or dislike more than 3 people?
-- No.

65. Do you like your life right now?
-- I guess

66. How often do you talk on the phone?
--

67. What is your favorite animal?
--My moms dog Truman.

68. What was the most recent thing you bought?
-- Food and magazine.

69. Do you have good vision?
--somewhat

70. Can you hula hoop?
-- Not for very long.

71. Could you ever forgive a cheater?
-- No.

72. Do you have a job?
-- Sadly not at the moment, quit reminding me of my lameness!

73. Can you handle the truth?
-No.

74. What are you wearing?
-- I don't know you well enough to tell you that.

75. Have you ever crawled through a window?
-- My car window.